How could a person achieve this if it’s unable to let it go…
Today was the saddest and lowest day ever in my life…and I would like to clarify all matters in my previous posts, it was never my intention or anything being mention here was to pin point who’s right and wrong. As i had mention earlier in the post…
“there are no right and wrong, all these are based of individual perception and the mind at that point of time believes you are right and standing firm to the choice you had made.”
plus another
“I don’t blame my friend as i need to put myself into another people’s shoes”
I kept on recalling why should i make a point to take note of all these. In the 1st place if i have ever use my heart to “FEEL”, this is not the correct way of doing it plus commenting on my blog that means is to say i’m letting others know and i didn’t respect the other party at all..If words can ever be explained, it should goes like this in my last topic on Misfortune or unluckly —> IT”S NOT ABOUT WHAT GOOD OR BAD. EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS HERE…..”IS A PRECIOUS PART OF MY LIFE”
Noting that has happened have been pointless…THE BITTER THINGS…THE PAINFUL THINGS…THE FUN THINGS…All these are the experience in life thus i had encounter and my purpose of it is to share with everyone out there whether matters is it good or bad, right or wrong is not up to individual to judge it and in life there are always ups and downs. Just like this song commenting this…
“Wealth does not last forever and when the flower blooms, it will not be as beautiful as time past by (世间无永远的富贵 也无永远红的花蕊)
Now i finally know that words can really be misleading if the person who is not able to expressing itself. Just like when a person comments about something, other may feel hurt by it (说者无心,听者在意). It was really true when i recalled something similar from a story which was mention in a book…I would like to share it out
Once there was as old monk known as Yi Duan (Desire Sever or subjective judgement) named for his skilfilness in subduing the restless mind. On a sudden whim, he had his disciples set up an arena one day for an open Zen challenge. The rule was this : if anyone who could give successful replies to the monk would entitled to 500 copper coins and residence in the monastery with the best vegetarian meals as well as the finest living quarters.
The generous prizes attracted many contestants throughout the day but everyone of them could only leave the arena in shame. Just when the sun was setting and Yi Duan was about to call it a day, an old lady dressed in rags and holding some worn out shoes came towards the arena. Yi Duan could not contain his contempt
“Are you here for the challenge?”
“Well, an old lady got to eat somehow.”
And so it began. First the old monk pointed at his own head. The old lady pointed too but at her own feet. In this manner, she had passed the first round. The monk rubbed his belly and the old lady slapped her buttock; next he held out five fingers, whereas his opponent struck out eight. Finally Yi Duan’s left hand slanted downwards and the old lady lifted her right hand.
After a few rounds went on and on which Yi Duan was left extremely pleasantly suprised and said “Wonderful! This way please!” Thus signifying that the old lady had won her money, meals and accommodation.
Yi Duan was blown away by the old lady’s talent. He later explained in response to a disciple’s enquiry : “You really can’t judge someone by their appearance. This lady was replying to everything that I threw at her! In the beginning, I indicated heaven is above my head, she countered it with the earth is under my feet. In the second round, I went, I am full of scared texts inside but she went, I sit firmly on the lotus. Next i showed her I’ve eight bushels of talents. Finally I made as ascend to the western paradise gesture and yet she responded with I’ve tumbled Mount Taishan. What a remarkable person!”
Hearing these words, the disciples in the monastery stood in awe of the old lady and served her more respectfully…untill they heard her account of the contest : “The Zen challenge wasn’t so difficult as it seems, was it? The monk was asking me if i repair headgears, so i indicated that i do only shoes. When he asked me if i use hide from a cow’s belly to patch my stuff, I corrected him – I use hide from a cow’s buttocks. Then he asked me if her could pay me five copper coins to get a pair of shoes fixed. The answer was no, I quoted eight coins instead. That turned out to be too pricey for him and so in the end he was just waving his hand and telling me to leave. But since i really needed some food, I lifted my hand and threatened to beat him…”
And the disciples roared with laughter to hear that!
Now obviously the monk and the old lady each had different ideas, mindsets and understanding with regard to the same set of gestures. It is not hard to see that something similar occurs with everything else in the world. People think of the same events differently due to our diversity in thought, learning, knowledge, time, background, allegiance and perspective.
To make matter worst, we are also often highly obstinate, with the tendency to insist that “I am right and you are wrong”. How can there be true rights and wrongs in this world when we are all so deeply entrenched in subjective attachments and various matters arising from the mind?
This time round i had innocently involved some people into this and i would like to take this opportunity to say I’M SORRY!!!!!! AND MORE IMPORTANTLY NOT TO FORGET THE PERSON/FRIEND WHOM I HAD UNINTENTIONALLY HURT…….
Last updated on 25 Feburary 2010 at 2332Hours
